In previous sessions we talked about the child’s need to belong, and how a child’s behavior is directed towards getting this emotional connection of belonging.
We’ve talked about how a child’s behavior is driven by four unconscious goals: contact, power, protection and withdrawal.
Let’s look now at how we can help our children in meeting the goal of protection.
Time to put this into action!
Think of a recent high emotion incident with your child.
How was it related to your child not meeting the goal of protection and thus belonging?
Write out the 4 steps you could have used to accept and respect your child’s feeling in that moment.
I want to say thank you for your wonderful piece of advice. “I wish I’d have a small fluffy toy dog with a collar and a silver bone. And on the collar I wish it’d be written I’m Sofie’s dog!” I told Sofie. In no time she became very peaceful. It’s just a miracle how accepting feelings and giving wishes in fantasy work!
So glad to hear of your success!