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Leading Towards Civility

Leading towards civility

In our series on teaching civility, we’ve considered that there are key questions we need to keep in the air every day. :  Who do I want to be? Do you want to be a person who values others? Who helps others succeed? Who removes obstacles to success? Who creates a culture of kindness and […]


Herding Cats?

As a school leader we deal with lots of different personalities from youngsters to adults.  Trying to meet a variety of needs…no wonder we might feel like we are herding cats. There are some similarities in guiding adults and children.   Perhaps when we can focus on those similarities we can play to our strengths. […]


The High Costs Of Incivility

The High Cost of Incivility

One of the dangers of dealing with incivility is like the proverbial frog in a pot of boiling water.  If a frog jumps into boiling water, he’ll jump right out.  Light the fire after the frog is in the pot, and he stays until it is too late. With incivility we run the risk of […]


Dealing With Incivility

Dealing With Incivility

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. This nursery rhyme from the 1830’s, created to help children develop self-control in the face of taunting, sets us up to think we have to accept incivility. From an early age, we are told to “toughen up” and ignore others’ insults and […]


What Is Civility?

What is civility?

A Washington Post article offers a startling statistic: 71% of employees are looking for new jobs. The main reason for their job dissatisfaction is employees don’t feel appreciated on the job in two basic way, recognition and compensation. The key word, here is, I think, “appreciated”. Christine Porath, in Mastering Civility: A Manifesto For The Workplace, tells us how incivility […]


What The World Needs Now

What the world needs now

The news events of the past few years, with an overwhelming arc of meanness, disrespect and disregard for others, fractures my heart.  What has happened to common courtesy? Civility? Kindness and respect? What are our children learning from this mean-spirited time? How can we magnify kindness and respect in both children and adults? In this […]


Urgent But Not Important

urgent but not important

Time management is not about managing our time.   Time management is about managing ourselves. We spend our time on activities that are important or not important, urgent or not.   In our world of 24/7 e-mail, computers, text messaging, cell phones and satellite television, urgent and important are easily confused.  For effective self-management we want to focus our […]


Creating A Culture That Is Friendly To Error

Create a culture friendly to error

Life is full of mistakes!  Unfortunately, most of us don’t like to admit when we’ve made a mistake.  After a choice I wish I hadn’t made, I’m usually ready to learn from the mistake and move on.  Enough said!  But…in our schools we need to create a feedback loop that encourages others to speak up […]


Planning Meetings With A Purpose

Planning Meetings That Matter

Have you been in a meeting where you squirmed in your seat and thought, “Why am I here?” Right!  Who hasn’t?  Painful, isn’t it? To plan meetings that matter for your next school year, ask yourself these two questions about each event: Why are we having this event? What do we want to do differently after our […]


Teaching Civility | Articles To Share

Teaching Civility

Here is a list of Kids Talk articles that might help you in your work of teaching civility. Click on the titles to read the entire article.  Asking Permission For many of us it is easier to beg forgiveness than to ask permission. If you really want to do something, why risk being told ”no”? […]