In previous sessions we talked about the child’s need to belong, and how a child’s behavior is directed towards getting this emotional connection of belonging.
We’ve talked about how a child’s behavior is driven by four unconscious goals: contact, power, protection and withdrawal.
Let’s look now at how we can help our children in meeting the goal of protection.
Time to put this into action!
Think of a recent high emotion incident with your child.
How was it related to your child not meeting the goal of protection and thus belonging?
Write out the 4 steps you could have used to accept and respect your child’s feeling in that moment.