In the previous four articles in this series, we’ve considered a child’s need to belong, and how a child’s behavior is directed towards getting this emotional connection of belonging.
To feel like they belong, children’s behavior is driven by four unconscious goals: contact, power, protection and withdrawal.
Now, let’s consider how we can help our children in meeting the goal of withdrawal.
- ARTICLE: Meeting The Goal Of Withdrawal
- ACTION PLAN: Asking Only Questions
- AUDIO: Meeting The Goal Of Withdrawal
Time to put this into action!
Today at dinner or bedtime with your children, when there is no issue at hand, practice this only ask questions technique.
Thinking of yourself as an impartial television interviewer may help you from falling into the listening traps.
Practice this only ask question technique everyday with your children, spouse or friends.
That way when you really, really need it, this tool will be ready for you to put into action.