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Feeling Over?

Feeling over?

“I’m so over!” Jennifer said. “Overwhelmed.  Overworked.  Overscheduled.” As school leaders, the demands on our time, as well as our own tendencies toward perfection or procrastination, can create a situation where we are over our heads. How can we go from overwhelmed to overdrive, to feeling like we are cruising in the driver’s seat? Make […]


Overcoming Obstacles To Success

Overcoming Obstacles To Success

As we work with adults we often wonder why our expectations or standards aren’t being met. We believe in assuring success for children.    How can we assure success for adults? Success usually requires more of the following: Skills and training  Experience  Time to get the job done Support from others Materials  Confidence  Desire or motivation to […]


Make Room For Success, Delegate

Make Room For Success Delegate

One of the traps I tend to fall into, time and time again, is this one: I’d rather do it myself that delegate a task and have someone not do it correctly.  As school leaders working with staff and volunteers we can be put in uncomfortable situations by others’ mistakes and tardiness.  How can we use […]


Leading Towards Civility

Leading towards civility

In our series on teaching civility, we’ve considered that there are key questions we need to keep in the air every day. :  Who do I want to be? As a community, there are key questions to address: We’ve looked at personal strategies to deal with incivility: There are high costs to incivility: You’ve learned how to calculate your […]


Herding Cats?

As a school leader we deal with lots of different personalities from youngsters to adults.  Trying to meet a variety of needs…no wonder we might feel like we are herding cats. There are some similarities in guiding adults and children.   Perhaps when we can focus on those similarities we can play to our strengths. […]


The High Costs Of Incivility

The High Cost of Incivility

One of the dangers of dealing with incivility is like the proverbial frog in a pot of boiling water.  If a frog jumps into boiling water, he’ll jump right out.  Light the fire after the frog is in the pot, and he stays until it is too late. With incivility we run the risk of […]


Dealing With Incivility

Dealing With Incivility

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. This nursery rhyme from the 1830’s, created to help children develop self-control in the face of taunting, sets us up to think we have to accept incivility. From an early age, we are told to “toughen up” and ignore others’ insults and […]


What Is Civility?

What is civility?

A Washington Post article offers a startling statistic: 71% of employees are looking for new jobs. The main reason for their job dissatisfaction is employees don’t feel appreciated on the job in two basic way, recognition and compensation. The key word, here is, I think, “appreciated”. Christine Porath, in Mastering Civility: A Manifesto For The Workplace, tells us how incivility […]


What The World Needs Now

What the world needs now

The news events of the past few years, with an overwhelming arc of meanness, disrespect and disregard for others, fractures my heart.  What has happened to common courtesy? Civility? Kindness and respect? What are our children learning from this mean-spirited time? How can we magnify kindness and respect in both children and adults? In this […]


Urgent But Not Important

urgent but not important

Time management is not about managing our time.   Time management is about managing ourselves. We spend our time on activities that are important or not important, urgent or not.   In our world of 24/7 e-mail, computers, text messaging, cell phones and satellite television, urgent and important are easily confused.  For effective self-management we want to focus our […]