Summer nights, years ago, right before the news there was a public service announcement: It’s 10 o’clock, do you know where your children are? What I’d like to hear today is this: Do you know who your children are? When parents or grandparents contact me asking for advice about how to handle a child who […]
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Social/emotional needs
Learning How to Care
Many things in life seem to be a closed system, as if certain concepts flow through an electric circuit. To get respect, give respect. To have a friend, be a friend. Care for others and they’ll care for you. The key to success in learning to care is in understanding what actions constitute caring, just […]
Learning to Question
Information is an avalanche. Technology experts tell us that every two days we now create as much information as we did from the dawn of civilization up until 2003. To be able to dig ourselves out of this morass of words and images, in order to find our way and to live our lives, learning […]
Learning to Deal With Change
Learning to deal with change has become one of the critical life skills of our times. The amount of new information that we can access through the internet grows in such a geometrical progression that it staggers the mind. In 2010 Eric Schmidt, then CEO of Google, commented that every two days we now create […]
Learning to Make Good Decisions
What should we teach our children? Research shows that 80% of the facts we learn for tests are forgotten in a month. We remember best that information with which we have an emotional connection. It’s a lot easier to remember your birthday than the year of the Battle of Hastings. 1066, in case you’re wondering. […]
Fathers Courageous
A few weeks ago a friend recommended the film, Courageous. This movie explores a father’s role in the life of his children. Modern fatherhood–along with everything else–has become more complicated and less clear in its definition than ever before. Single motherhood seems to be the new norm, with marriage considered unnecessary. In this process men […]
Creating Clear Expectations for Our Children
“Last night Dustin asked me what rules we had at home. I’m embarrassed to say that I didn’t have a ready answer. Dustin told me, ‘At school we have these rules, Mommy. Choose your work. Don’t touch anybody’s work. Work at a rug or table. And put your work away when you’re finished.’ See, even […]
Providing Structure in the Life of a Child
Dr. Robert Shaw in his book, The Epidemic, tells us that there are two “emotional vitamins” we can provide for our children: clear structure and clear expectations. How do we go about giving our children these two important items? This week we’ll explore how to create a clear structure, and next week we’ll look at […]
Dealing with Tantrums
The day that your child turns red then blue while writhing on the floor in an attempt to get his or her way, is a day when you earn perhaps your first parenting medal, “valor under stress.” Joan, a mother of two, related to me her ordeal of a temper tantrum with three-year-old, Robbie. “It […]
The Best Gift for Our Children
It was Parents’ Weekend during our daughter’s freshman year at college. The ladies cross-country team had arranged a dinner for the parents. As we dined on ravioli at a local restaurant, it dawned on me that I was sitting in the middle of a statistical anomaly. Every team member had a parent there, and of […]