Beginning a Conversation

beginning a conversation

We were looking forward to spending the weekend with old friends and their eight- and ten-year-old sons, whom we had never met. As soon as quick introductions were made, the boys picked up their electronic game machines and headed toward the den. At dinner the boys made plates of food and sat at the coffee […]


Four Keys to Raising a Self-Disciplined Child

four keys to raising a self disciplined child

Do you dream of having a child who is self-composed, articulate and respectful of others, young or old? In our children’s pre-verbal days it seems like those attributes may be impossible, but there are some teaching tools you can use to help your child have the self-discipline to live a peaceful life as a toddler […]


Ten Little Words

ten little words

As soon as my southern drawl is detected, I am usually greeted with something like, ”Aren’t you from the South?  Southerners are so polite.”  Folks from all over the world marvel at our use of “yes, ma’am” and “no, sir”. My imagination is not large enough to consider growing up and not saying “yes, ma’am”.  […]


Breaking Bad Food Habits

breaking bad food habits

Waiting for my car at the dealership, the early morning talk show hostess interviewed a former 700-pound woman who confessed that before her decision to lose weight, she had never sat down and eaten a meal. Her habit, formed in childhood, had been to snack her way through the day, never stopping to sit and […]


Do The Hokey Pokey

hokey pokey

In the gardening shop I looked up to discover a sign over my head. ”What If The Hokey Pokey Is What It’s All About?” For whatever reasons, I started to laugh. Uncontrollably. My husband came from across the store to see what could be so funny. For weeks afterwards Mark and I had a running […]


Teaching Forgiveness

teaching forgiveness

“Forgive and forget” is a phrase that is given as advice. As a child, I remember being upset over a transgression and yelling, “I don’t want to forgive her, and I won’t forget it!” Forgive and forget seemed to mean that I should pardon the misdeed and pretend it never happened. That, in my mind, […]


Accentuate The Positive

accentuate the positive

“If I tell Ginny not to do something, she just looks me in the eye, and does it.  She seems defiant.” Sam, Ginny’s dad, told me at a company picnic. Ginny, an almost four-year-old curly headed brunette, ran over from the swings at the park.  “Ginny, how about playing a little game with me?  I’m […]


A Secret Of Good Teaching

A secret of good teaching

Between the ages of birth to four-and-a-half, children are in a sensitive period for refining their senses.  Children at this age are capable of learning to discern hundreds of qualities of the things around them.  Perfect pitch is acquired before the age of six.  Too often adults stop giving information after certain basics are mastered. […]


Empowering Children To Collaborate

Brotherly and sisterly struggles

“Stop!” I heard six-year-old Alan tell a couple of three-year-old girls.  “I think you’ve got a problem.” Lila and Susan, the three-year-olds, were tugging and grunting to see who would get possession of a puzzle.  Alan continued, “I think you both want to do this puzzle by yourself.  Do you want to work this out? […]


My Heroes Have Always Been Cowboys

my heroes have always been cowboys

You can take the girl out of Oklahoma, but you can’t take Oklahoma out of the girl. Even though I left Oklahoma in 1964 when I was eight years old, I still join in at every opportunity for a rousing chorus of Oklahoma! I guess I came at a good time in my Grandfather Earl’s […]