Nothing can wear you down as quickly as a whining child. You may think you are patient, kind-hearted, understanding and virtuous beyond vocabulary. Five minutes with a whining child can make all those golden qualities evaporate. And let us not forget whiny adults. Whining isn’t just a youngster’s activity. Whining works. Which is why it […]
Happy Birthday Kids Talk!
Wow! Happy Birthday, Kids Talk! This month we celebrate the tenth anniversary of Kids Talk. Ever since my dad worked for the Daily Oklahoman when I was two years old, I knew I wanted to write a newspaper column. Kids Talk is my dream come true. Column by column, blog post by blog post, the […]
Better Trickles Down
As we learn and grow interesting events occur. Others around us grow and learn. We position ourselves to help others through our newfound knowledge and skills. One of my friends when I was ten years old received a new Monopoly game as a gift. Over the next year it sat on her shelf in the […]
Always Room For More
As we learn and grow, there is always room for more. How can we say or believe that we can’t learn one more thing? Living requires that we learn more. If we are aware that learning is a necessity we can choose to engage positively in our personal growth versus experiencing the school of hard […]
Learning To Lead And Follow
The adult is the most important part of a child’s environment. We may fill a child’s space with all kinds of learning activities. We may be able to give a child all types of advantages. What becomes significant, too often in hindsight, is the quality of the adults as being the indicator of a how […]
Give Up Something To Get Something Better
When asked to name her favorite piece from her portfolio, a well-known artist replied, “The one I am working on today.” This painter knew that to keep growing and learning she had to give up her previous work to connect with interesting and satisfying work. She had to give up her past accomplishments to grow […]
Life Is Mysterious, Be Curious
In our efforts to help our children and ourselves become better, we need to avoid the pat answer trap. We may get tired of answering our children’s questions, but we need to guard against dampening natural enthusiasm and curiosity for life. Asking questions, especially why, leads us to grow—intellectually, physically, socially and emotionally. Asking questions […]
Potential Is A Stretch
Potential is about possibilities. It is the distance from where we are to where we want to go. To reach our potential, our undeveloped promise, is always a stretch. Everyday we have to be reaching for the next step, making the next decision, committing to the next action. That takes courage. “One isn’t necessarily born […]
Character Strength Promotes True Growth
Building a better you is the first step in building better relationships, better families, better communities, as well as building a better America and a better world. It all begins with an individual’s choice of what to do next, what to do now. Choice is an action, not a reaction to the set of circumstances […]
Making Lemonade Out Of Lemons
The problem with problems is that wherever you go, there they are. Problems have a shadowing type of effect. They follow you around until you get them into the light of full day. Everyone has problems or bad experiences. One of the hard lessons I had to learn is that it didn’t matter how good […]