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Children’s basic needs

The Rule Of 150

rule of 150

The Rule of 150 states that the size of an effective social network is limited to 150 members. Social scientists theorize that 150 is the limit of the human ability to remember and respond to all the members in a group. The human mind seems unable to maintain a large number of distinct relationships. As […]


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This event is in full swing! Click here to watch my 20 minute interview. Over the next two weeks there will be interviews with lots of great folks.  Join in! Dr. Laura Markham Lori Petro Tracy Cutchlow Maren Schmidt Jessica Martin-Weber Amy Bryant Karen Young Kim Payne Claire Heffron and Lauren Drobnjak Jane Nelsen Liz Barker-Aquino […]


Gardening: Teaching Children to Love The Earth

gardening teaching children to love the earth

If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.Cicero (106 BC –43 BC) The look of wonder in a young child’s eyes reigns eternal, as the magic of a bean sprouting in a paper cup reveals itself. The bean emerging green from the earth begins a youngster’s understanding of a law […]


See It In Your Child Video: Meeting The Goal Of Withdrawal

meeting the goal of withdrawal

In the previous four articles in this series, we’ve considered a child’s need to belong, and how a child’s behavior is directed towards getting this emotional connection of belonging. To feel like they belong, children’s behavior is driven by four unconscious goals: contact, power, protection and withdrawal. Now, let’s consider how we can help our […]


Balancing Parenthood

listening and following the adult

Every now and then go away, Have a little relaxation, For when you come back to your work Your judgment will be surer; Since to remain constantly at work Will cause you to lose power of judgment. Go some distance away Because the work appears smaller And more of it Can be taken in at […]


Competition

competition

The thirtyish-year-old father stood next to me on the playing field. We were watching his four-year-old son’s soccer team. “I can’t wait until Josh is old enough to play catch with me,” he said. “Josh is old enough to play catch with you now. Matter of fact, if you don’t build that relationship now, when […]


TV Or Not TV, Is That The Question?

tv or not tv is that the question

All man’s miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone. Blaise Pascal (1623 -1662) “I can tell you exactly the year that my students changed,” my college professor told our class in the 1970’s. “I’d ask a question and nobody made any attempt to answer it. They thought they were […]


See It In Your Child Video: Meeting The Goal Of Protection

Meeting The Goal Of Protection

In previous sessions we talked about the child’s need to belong, and how a child’s behavior is directed towards getting this emotional connection of belonging. We’ve talked about how a child’s behavior is driven by four unconscious goals: contact, power, protection and withdrawal. Let’s look now at how we can help our children in meeting […]


Shoe Leather Is Cheap

shoe leather is cheap

How can we establish a habit of fitness for our children and ourselves? May I recommend a step at a time? Hugh Gailey from Stevenson, Washington walked 100 miles per week at ninety-four years young. Mr. Gailey said, “shoe leather is cheaper than medicine and doctor’s bills. Walking is the best exercise for any age.” […]


Help with Stuttering

children seek to create a flow of activity

“Kate has started to stutter. What should I do? How can I help her?” Doug, father to three-year-old Kate, asked. As we develop spoken language, stuttering is a symptom of expressive skills lagging behind receptive language skills. If we think about receptive language being our reservoir of words and understanding, and expressive language as the […]