Even though modern media often portrays young children as clumsy, loud, and noisy, children who are on a path of normal, healthy development—what Montessori called normalization—have a love of silence. Watching a six-week-old baby playing with a floor mobile, I see a child who is wide-eyed and quiet. It seems as though the child is using […]
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Children’s basic needs
FREE TRAINING | Helping Children Learn To Listen
In my many years of working with young children, there is one question I hear frequently from parents and teachers: How do I get children to listen to me? When we are confronted with tantrums, defiant behavior, or worse, it’s difficult to know what to do. But these situations are usually avoidable, or at least […]
The Tea Party Was Real
The smell of our favorite gluten-free chocolate muffins wafted from the oven. My five-year-old granddaughter stood on a stool at the sink, washing the mixing bowl. “Grandma,” she said, “when the muffins come out, can we have a tea party?” “What a wonderful idea,” I said. At this point, you may imagine that a tea […]
May I Take the Cylinders with Me?
The fire drill was in full operation. The sound of the alarm hammered throughout the school building. My job was to inspect each classroom, closet, bathroom, and nook to make sure there were no children left behind. As I entered the last classroom, there in the corner, hidden by shelves, was Jennifer, quietly building an […]
The Love of Meaningful Work
The clock face stared at me. 1:00 AM. Again. The red digital numbers mocked me as I tossed and turned. Again, it was 1:00 AM, and if the pattern held steady, I wouldn’t be asleep again until after three. As a mom with young children and a husband who traveled frequently on business, the thought […]
Looking for Love in All the Right Places
There is a simple hymn that I find myself singing as I walk. As a young teen, I learned it as a round at church camp and later sang it for the church congregation. Another version, made famous in the play Godspell, became a Top 40 hit. The lyrics are simple, and the original melody is […]
Why the Three-Finger Grasp Matters More Than You Think
While working with a group of older four-year-olds on a craft project, I looked on in amazement as the children held their pencils like spears, ready to be launched. Scissors were clutched upside down and backward using all sorts of awkward finger combinations. Frustration and discouragement filled the air. “What happened,” I wondered, “to the three-finger grasp?” […]
Work is the Healer
There are moments I think we all have. Moments that provide a clearness about one’s life, and when you look back to that unclouded moment after many years, you observe a line that runs to the present. One of those moments was when I was in my late teens reading a biography of Albert Schweitzer. I […]
What’s Important?
As I look at what my grandchildren, now 7 and 4, are learning from their life—home, school, and experiences in their larger community—a whisper that nagged me as a parent echoes, “Are they learning what is important?” Parents today are trying to prepare children not just to succeed, but to navigate a complex, fast-changing world—and that tension […]
Care of Others: Another Step Towards Independence
As we consider the different areas of practical life exercises, we might see that care of others follows a natural expansion from the child’s activities in care for the self and care of the environment. Before we can truly take care of others, we need to know how to take care of ourselves, and at […]