Five Dangerous Behaviors

five dangerous behaviors

You must be the change you wish to see in the world.Mahatma Mohandas Gandhi We have all experienced the person. The person with the negative attitude whose dark cloud metastasizes throughout a relationship, family, business or community, bringing discord, disorder and disaster. In order to maintain harmonious relationships, Stephen Covey in The 8th Habit says […]


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This event is in full swing! Click here to watch my 20 minute interview. Over the next two weeks there will be interviews with lots of great folks.  Join in! Dr. Laura Markham Lori Petro Tracy Cutchlow Maren Schmidt Jessica Martin-Weber Amy Bryant Karen Young Kim Payne Claire Heffron and Lauren Drobnjak Jane Nelsen Liz Barker-Aquino […]


Nurturing The Entrepreneurial Spirit

nurturing the entrepreneurial spirit

Money doesn’t grow on trees. Parenting adage Financial security is one of the long-term goals parents wish for their children. Being financially secure has connotations of knowing how to make money, how to save money, and how to use money to help others. Financially secure suggests that we have a realistic expectation about the amount […]


Gardening: Teaching Children to Love The Earth

gardening teaching children to love the earth

If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.Cicero (106 BC –43 BC) The look of wonder in a young child’s eyes reigns eternal, as the magic of a bean sprouting in a paper cup reveals itself. The bean emerging green from the earth begins a youngster’s understanding of a law […]


See It In Your Child Video: Meeting The Goal Of Withdrawal

meeting the goal of withdrawal

In the previous four articles in this series, we’ve considered a child’s need to belong, and how a child’s behavior is directed towards getting this emotional connection of belonging. To feel like they belong, children’s behavior is driven by four unconscious goals: contact, power, protection and withdrawal. Now, let’s consider how we can help our […]


Balancing Parenthood

listening and following the adult

Every now and then go away, Have a little relaxation, For when you come back to your work Your judgment will be surer; Since to remain constantly at work Will cause you to lose power of judgment. Go some distance away Because the work appears smaller And more of it Can be taken in at […]


The Power Of Family Stories

the power of family stories

Every family, every college, every corporation, every institution needs tribal storytellers. The penalty for failing to listen is to lose one’s history, one’s historical context, one’s binding values. Max De Pree, Leadership Is An Art  On Christmas Eve, the cousins chose to watch The Sound of Music. This surprised me, as the cousins’ ages range […]


Competition

competition

The thirtyish-year-old father stood next to me on the playing field. We were watching his four-year-old son’s soccer team. “I can’t wait until Josh is old enough to play catch with me,” he said. “Josh is old enough to play catch with you now. Matter of fact, if you don’t build that relationship now, when […]


TV Or Not TV, Is That The Question?

tv or not tv is that the question

All man’s miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone. Blaise Pascal (1623 -1662) “I can tell you exactly the year that my students changed,” my college professor told our class in the 1970’s. “I’d ask a question and nobody made any attempt to answer it. They thought they were […]


See It In Your Child Video: Meeting The Goal Of Protection

Meeting The Goal Of Protection

In previous sessions we talked about the child’s need to belong, and how a child’s behavior is directed towards getting this emotional connection of belonging. We’ve talked about how a child’s behavior is driven by four unconscious goals: contact, power, protection and withdrawal. Let’s look now at how we can help our children in meeting […]