Just Say No!

just say no

Probably the hardest word for us to learn as parents is ‘no’. Children wouldn’t be children if they didn’t test the boundaries, and when we say no, our children are determined to find a way to get to yes. There are many strategies they use to try to get to yes: complaining that we aren’t […]

Using Encouragement

using encouragement

A discouraged child is an unhappy child who is prone to acts of undue attention in the form of tantrums, whining, and more; acts of rebellion; acts of revenge, and acts of giving up and assumed disability. Oh woe is me! It’s easy to be around a child full of encouragement. He cooperates and contributes […]

When We Belong, We’re Important

when we belong we're important

We all need to feel like we belong. And the most important place we need to feel like we belong is in our families. It is from our family relationships that we build relationships within our schools, our churches, our neighborhoods and our communities…and beyond. According to Rudolph Dreikurs and Alfred Adler our children are […]

Promises, Promises, Promises

Promises Promises Promises

In building healthy relationships it is important that our words and our actions match positively. Where we can get into trouble is making promises. Once we make a promise, we have put our integrity on the line. Circumstances may change that make our commitment untenable, but to our children a bond of trust has been […]

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

actions speak louder than words

My dad used to say that there were four basic types of people in the world. There are the people who say negative things and do negative things. They are pretty easy to spot and avoid. There are positive people who do positive things. These folks are harder to find, since they are rare. When […]

Letting Kids Figure It Out

letting kids figure it out

How are you going to find a way to use words to solve problems? Use the five-step problem solving method. In last week’s post we laid some ground rules for our family: that we will work together, as we are all in the same boat; and that we do not act or speak in a […]

Who Started It?

Who started it

“But Daaaad-deee he started it!” Sometimes we really do need the wisdom of King Solomon! It is difficult for us to know who actually started it. During the heat of the moment, though, it is perhaps best if we don’t try to resolve the dispute ourselves by telling one child what to do. We may […]

Create A Relationship Toolbox

create a relationship toolbox

What are simple ways we can create a lifetime of good health? In this series of articles we’ve looked at the positive benefits of… All of these are effective, low-costs way to improve your health and your family’s health. We’ll finish with a discussion of the importance of having the right tools to building robust […]



In this series of articles we’ve been looking at important health habits that are low cost or no cost with significant payback. These wellness practices range from eating a low sugar diet, making sure vitamin D3 levels are in the 40 to 60 ng/ml level, learning how to focus your mind, and getting adequate sleep […]

Don’t Snooze, You Lose

don't snooze you lose

After reading John Medina’s book, Brain Rules, and William DeMent’s The Promise of Sleep, I began to see sleep as an important way to maintain optimum health. Medina tells us that people fall into three kinds of sleepers: Larks, Hummingbirds and Night Owls. Dement says that adults need 7 to 10 hours of sleep per day. […]