Quiet Time Is Important

quiet time is important

Do Be Do Be Do. We get so busy doing that we neglect to stop and consider our being. A quote from Kurt Vonnegut reminds me of that innate human need to maintain balance between doing and being. “To be is to do – SocratesTo do is to be – SartreDo Be Do Be Do […]

Something Worth Growing

something worth growing

A few years ago I read in a book a description of a young man who finally saw himself as “a gift worth wrapping.” This young man’s life had been full of heartbreak and loss, with not much positive feedback about his strengths. His weaknesses, and there were many, were harped on by his guardians, […]

Knowing Who Your Child Is

knowing who your child is

Wouldn’t it be great if we had an internal compass to let us know what direction we were headed? Actually we are born with a tendency to attach positively to the people, objects, ideas and nature that surround us. Our preferences for interaction with our environment create our compass. Unfortunately, we can’t read this compass […]

Making It Happen

making it happen

One of the thinking traps we can fall into is believing that we will continue to grow without conscious thought or attention. As children our physical growth is automatic. We have little, if any, control over it. Granted, food and exercise contribute to physical growth, but as a child we have little input over those […]

Baby Steps

baby steps

One of my go-to comedies, a movie that never fails to make me laugh and always helps me have an attitude adjustment, is What About Bob? with Bill Murray and Richard Dreyfuss. The book, Baby Steps, figures prominently in the plot. Baby Steps outlines Dr. Leo Marvin’s (Dreyfuss) therapy to help his clients overcome their […]

Your Presence Is Your Present

your presence is your present

Do you ever worry about getting the “right” gift for the special people in your life? Let’s take a few minutes and make sure we are giving the gifts that can only come from the heart. The Present of Listening. How do we really listen? We turn off our cell phones, the television and the […]

Have Courage, Faith And Patience

courage faith patience

There are three attributes we need to strengthen in ourselves when working with children: Courage, Faith and Patience. Courage to know we are doing the right thing. Faith in knowing that by observing children involved in activity that they will reveal their true selves to us. And we must have patience to endure the inevitable […]

Sometimes A Cigar Is Just A Cigar

sometimes a cigar is just a cigar

Childhood seems to have become a pathology. If children don’t do what the adults around them deem to be “good behavior”, a diagnosis, or label of some type is given to the child: Attention Deficient Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), Separation Anxiety Disorder (SAD), Conduct Disorder. There is a long list of learning […]

Get A Life Before Its Too Late

get a life before it's too late

Working and living with children can seem to consume all your time and energies. Yes, for many years, at least the first five to six, our children need our almost constant attention and we are sleep deprived, etc. It is important, though, that we learn to let them grow in their own time and way, […]

Laugh And The World Laughs With You

laugh and the world laughs with you

Some of the good news about parenting is that you can use your sense of humor. And it may be best if you can learn to look with humor at some of the predicaments you will find yourself. The young child under the age of six years is a literal learner and doesn’t get jokes […]